A couple of days ago Dean wrote a blog post about how 'grudges' may impact on your health. He raised some valid points and they should indeed be reflected on. As I've been around for about 30 years longer than Dean I thought that it may be a good idea to expand on this theme a little based on my personal observations and experience during my lifetime.
Dean has reservations that holding a grudge will give you cancer. He may be right, no one knows for sure. However, I am totally convinced that your thinking does play a very real role in your overall health, and if it is negative enough it may well potentially trigger cancer. It is scientifically proven that good emotions and thoughts will trigger off beneficial chemical reactions in your body such as those that come from laughter.
It is also well established that stress which is an emotional state can severely affect your health in a negative way by setting off chemical reactions...so, harbouring negative thoughts and grudges may well over time cause dangerous chemicals to be produced in your body which may at some point just tip the balance whether you get cancer or not. In that regard it is always important to understand that we all have cancer in our bodies. Whether it manifests itself depends upon the anti-cancer components within your body keeping it at bay.
This means trying to maintain equilibrium through a combination of lifestyle, diet, exercise, adequate nutrient intake via supplementation and correct thinking. Getting any one of these out of balance may trigger of an unwanted effect.
So, if you holding a grudge, thinking negatively or feeling sorry for yourself because something has happened to you outside your control or someone have treated you badly, what should you do?
It took me almost 60 years to figure this out!
This does not mean that you lay down and roll over when things happen to you which are unjust and allow it to happen again. Rather it means to accept that it has happened and then plan and take the necessary actions to avoid a recurrence in the future. If it is something that you can have no influence over then plan your life accordingly, however, most negative things that happen to us are due to our own actions.
When you accept something it no longer has any power over you and you do not damage your body in any way.
If there is one thing that I have learnt in my life to date is that there is no past, no future only right now. You cannot change what has happened in the past but the past can potentially destroy you if it is responsible for making you harbour a grudge or resentment to others. Let it go and move on. Plan for the future...don't live for it.
I made that mistake for many years. I always planned for the future, and figured when I achieved this or that then I would be happy...but, when you get there the goal posts change and you then think, oh, I still need to do this or that and then I will be happy. But, happiness does not come from the attainment of goals or material possessions. Happiness is a state of inner peace and that is what we should all strive for.
No matter what our circumstances are inner peace can be achieved today...not tomorrow. Even the poorest people who have nothing can have inner peace whereas others who have everything do not and continue to chance a rainbow which they will never find.
Acceptance that there is only today, no yesterday and no tomorrow will go a long way to ensuring your long lasting health and longevity, particularly if you combine it with the other principles that I mention above.
Sometimes people only experience inner peace just before they die. Don't wait until then...the sooner you discover it the longer it is likely to be before the final day of reckoning.